Friday, 9 January 2015

No Lik Di Pickney So ! ! !

Four (4) hours ago I encountered a post that was posted almost a day ago of a mother beating her child. (See video below)

I am hoping that this post reaches the mother. I have been a victim of that type of beating, and yes I did not turn out any worse than most people my age, and yes I hear the debate that you need to discipline the child. I also hear older folks lamenting about "back in my day" etc etc and you are not worse, and you now have respect and you this and you that. We hear you, very loud and clear, but how many of you resent your parents for those actions?
My father hit me at school for not attending extra lessons, and then he grabbed me one day in public believing that I should have been home and not "idling" on the road, had he questioned me in private he would have discovered that I did not attend extra lessons because the teacher told me not to because she did not receive payment for same, and had he questioned me whether there or in private he would have discovered that I had just stepped off the bus in the town and was about to seek out the other mode of transportation to get home.
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I am pretty sure that had this mother taken the time to question her daughter about what she heard, she possibly would have gotten a much different response than her daughter trying to evade punishment.
I have encountered other individuals who have TERRIBLE relationships with their family members who hear something from meddling acquaintances and then made no attempt to hear the side of the story of the child, they punished them and they are a pinch short of hate for that person.
In my experience, individuals just prefer to cause discord in your home and family life so they will set their mouths in all directions just to achieve that. We should always remember the three (3) sides to a story, Your side, My side and the TRUTH!!! and just like in sets in mathematics, you will always have a common factor showing up in either stories.
So dear mother who humiliated your daughter, please to remember that:
  1. You will need her later down in life, and the resentment created now will affect your communication going forward.
  2. Do not ever attempt to do such thing to your child and or children again it will affect their self-esteem and the way they communicate with other individuals.
  3. These friends that may or may not be around for their lifetime, is the training ground for effective social communication. Your children will not be stuck with you for life, they will branch out and they will be speaking with other people, you should know that each person has a different type of personality and we do not relate to no two (2) person the same.
  4. Due to this humiliation she will face students who will jeer, mock and bully her stating that "she a behave like bad gyal when she a no one" and teachers who will use the opportunity to tear down her self-esteem due to your actions.
We are seeking to build empowered women of society, we struggle enough as it is daily, to have men and women alike respect us, we do not need another damaged young woman entering society with issues to take out on others, we need her, that child that you so viciously held in the throat, that child that you took off your slipper to hit across the head . . . WE NEED HER!!!
We need her:
  1. To enter a room with confidence
  2. To have great communication skills
  3. To add value to the lives of others
  4. To be respected
  5. To be empowered
Mothers, Fathers, Family members, Teachers, Peers . . . I beseech you to go forth and speak life into our young people and break the cycle of young people who have been angered and made bitter due to the encountered actions of our "guides".

Tuesday, 6 January 2015

Loving Without Boundaries . . .

Is it possible to love without boundaries? When I speak of loving without boundaries I do not speak of your significant others, nor do I speak of Paternal nor sibling love. I am speaking of people that we meet on a day-to-day basis, our coworkers, our most difficult friends, strangers even.
Recently, I posted my New Years Resolution:
Love without boundaries
In case you are unable to see it, it states My New Years Resolution . . . March Forward with God, Expect Nothing, Love without Boundaries. A friend of mine then commented stating that she hopes that I will be able to give real effort to the latter (loving without boundaries).
Hence my question . . . Is it really possible to love without boundaries?! After all the hurt, the desire to smack some sense into people or like me, the great desire to just lock myself in a bubble away from them, away from their stupidity, away from their selfishness, away from BullSh*t!

According to scripture . . .

Matthew 5:43-45 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.

The above verse, highlights that in spite of how different we feel that we are from others, we are all the same. We believe in class, I am of the upper class and you do not fit into my category, or I think I am too educated so I do not meddle with 'idiots', but how different do you believe that you are from another. Classic example, recently Jamaica suffered at the hands of the Chikungunya Virus (Chik V) and guess what, that virus was not a respecter of class, it walked across the island like Hurricane Gilbert, from the richest to the poorest, and we all felt the same pain, the pain that crippled us and rendered us unable to reach to the bathroom on time, the pain that caused sleep to be difficult, the itching that made us happily walk naked!
Another scripture that calls us to love is:

John 13:34-35  “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.

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That verse brings back a thought to mind, the thought that many "Christians" forget this verse. We choose who we love, and this choosing have caused us to treat other people as being non-existent. When Christ walked the earth, HE loved regardless of . . . When others frowned on his musings with the tax collector, HIS date with the woman at the well, HIS ability to forgive and wish well in spite of betrayal. 'Christians" need to be mindful that they are called to be "LIKE CHRIST" which outlines the mandate for you to love regardless of . . .
Yes, so many scriptures, but why not be practical?! I say that to love is practical, the same person that you express love to may not be able to return as how you expect, however, love will be returned to you via other avenues. Yes my people the Karma 'crap' is very much real.
I am not declaring that it is easy to do, because people are the hardest creatures to love, it is easier to love lions at times than human beings, however, my experiences have shown me that those that seem hardest to love, are those that need it the most.
I have not been successful with the aspect of "Loving Without Boundaries" in the past, however, I hope that I accomplish the task of Loving Without Boundaries, as:

First Peter 4:8  - “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.

Go forth, and set the world on fire with Love ! ! !